If You're Lonely by Alan Wolfelt
Author:Alan Wolfelt
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Companion Press
Published: 2020-03-15T00:00:00+00:00
PROXIMITY, REPETITION, AND QUALITY TIME
How do you build strong bonds with others? Through proximity, repetition, and quality time.
This may sound totally obvious, but when weâre physically near someone frequently, weâre more likely to develop a strong relationship with them. Being together in person is best, but when thatâs not possibleâsuch as when people live in different communities, for exampleâitâs still possible to maintain close ties through frequent video calls, emails, and texts.
But quality time is the other essential factor here. As you may have experienced yourself, you can be around someone every day yet not feel close to them. Perhaps you even live in the same household with others yet feel like you donât have effective, cherished relationships with them.
Emotional bonds are built on quality time. What does that mean? Quality time is time spent with another person or people in which you are focusing on each other, communicating well, and empathizing. You can be in the same room with another person, each immersed in your own phone. This is not quality time. But if you sit together in front of the same laptop or a TV, watching a favorite show and chatting about it as it plays, that may count as quality time. Similarly, distractedly talking âatâ each other while youâre busy with other things is not quality time, but stopping to look each other in the eyes and really give one another undivided attentionâthatâs the quality time thatâs needed to build love and devotion.
Stop for a second and think about the most cherished moments in your lifeâthe ones that not only bring a smile to your face but also tug at your heart. Itâs likely they were spent sharing quality time with those you loved the most. Thatâs one of the most important questions I hope you will keep in mind as you find your way through loneliness: How can I spend more quality time with people I care about?
Now letâs talk about building connection in each of the concentric circles, from the inside out. Weâve already talked about befriending yourself, so weâll start with intimate relationships.
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